Friday, January 04, 2013
Does time heal all wounds... all painful memories? Sorry. No. The truth is that time doesn't have anything to do with 'healing'.
Consider two scenarios:
1) Jack and Beth couldn't stand the sight of each other after their acrimonious divorce 20 years ago. Now they are more than cordial, both feeling like they just shared a nightmare a long time ago.
2) Andy couldn't keep a job because he was haunted by painful wartime memories. Today -- ten years later -- his memories are not a problem and he is thriving in life.
Didn't time have something to do with their recoveries?
To understand the change in Jack, Beth and Andy would you study a calendar or clock -- or would you be interested in what happened within their minds? To do the former would suggest that insights are a function of time. Do you really buy that? For example, if a person realized at two o'clock that they need a solution to a problem and he or she got the needed insight at eight o'clock -- did time in any way contribute to that insight? Or did time simply elapse before the insight arrived?