Friday, October 18, 2013
Often when clients say, “I see that it’s thought” they feel heavier rather than lighter. They think to themselves, “what am I going to do about those thoughts? How do I get rid of them? How do I keep them from reoccurring? How am I going to manage my thinking? If I don’t do a good job my thinking will plague me!”
Conversely, when clients see that, “it’s just a thought” they invariably feel more free and more lighthearted. Seeing that it is, “just a thought” sheds light on the nature of thought. To me “just a thought” says two things about the nature of thought. “Just” suggests that thought is the only thinghappening. Your feelings, your perceptions, indeed your entire experience is exclusively coming from your thinking at that moment. It just means thought is the only thing happening. In short, thought is not a lot even though it is the very fabric of our mental lives.
“Just” also means to me that thought is not a big deal. It’s just thought. It’s not made of concrete or kryptonite. It is more like a feather, a cloud...
Friday, October 11, 2013
I was recently reminded about how an understanding of the Three Principles helps during times of grief and loss. Five months ago, I had to put down my beloved dog Zak who was suffering from cancer. He was a strikingly handsome Hungarian Vizsla with an indomitably joyful spirit. At the age of 10 he had the youthful exuberance of a much younger pup and was expected to live to about 14. As I have a deep love of animals, especially dogs, Zak felt like a like a son to me. He was also my best friend and confidant. We were a pack of two.
When I first heard the results of a biopsy indicating a grade 3 mast cell tumor, I was shocked into the realization that I may soon lose my much loved pet. In that poignantly painful moment, I took a deep breath and told myself slowly, “remember what you know.” These words repeated in my mind for the next 6 months as Zak endured 2 highly invasive surgeries and difficult recoveries. I remained hopeful. I put him on homeopathic medicine, upgraded his diet and “loved him up” as the veterinarian told me to do.
Remembering ‘what I know’ refers to the fact that my...
, mary white
Friday, October 04, 2013
“I shall the effect of this good lesson keep,
As watchman to my heart. But, good my brother,
Do not, as some ungracious pastors do,
Show me the steep and thorny way to heaven; Whiles, like a puff'd and reckless libertine,
Himself the primrose path of dalliance treads,
And recks not his own rede.”
– William Shakespeare, Hamlet, Act I, Scene III, spoken by Ophelia
Since the 1600’s when Shakespeare first coined the term “primrose path” in Hamlet, and used it again later in Macbeth, people have used this famous idiom when referring to “taking the easy path to hell”, “the road to nowhere” or “the pathway of futility”.
Most people innocently live their lives walking – often sprinting -- on a primrose path paved with their preferences, wants, needs, desires and obsessions. Unfortunately, it is an insidiously logical way to live in our world today. It seems perfectly rational to believe that those who find...