Friday, November 08, 2013
The following statement might surprise you, but I’ve found it to be true again and again: The more troubled or distressed people feel about something, the less serious the problem actually is.
The reason for this, assuming that I’m correct, is that “problematic” circumstances don’t create our feelings. It’s overthinking that leads to bad feelings, overreactions, and an inability to find clarity of mind and answers.
Can you relate? Have you ever turned a molehill into a mountain? For me, when this happens, my circumstances tend to look severe. Yet, when I finally come to grips with the fact that I’m thinking at a million miles an hour, I back off, my mind clears, and the problem always looks simpler. In fact, it often vanishes altogether.
Now, I’m not saying that certain circumstances such as tragedies aren’t acute or sad. I don’t mean to diminish anyone’s difficulties. On the contrary, by reminding people that their feelings are created from in to out and not out to in, my purpose it to help them find the level of psychological functioning, or...