Friday, October 11, 2013
I was recently reminded about how an understanding of the Three Principles helps during times of grief and loss. Five months ago, I had to put down my beloved dog Zak who was suffering from cancer. He was a strikingly handsome Hungarian Vizsla with an indomitably joyful spirit. At the age of 10 he had the youthful exuberance of a much younger pup and was expected to live to about 14. As I have a deep love of animals, especially dogs, Zak felt like a like a son to me. He was also my best friend and confidant. We were a pack of two.
When I first heard the results of a biopsy indicating a grade 3 mast cell tumor, I was shocked into the realization that I may soon lose my much loved pet. In that poignantly painful moment, I took a deep breath and told myself slowly, “remember what you know.” These words repeated in my mind for the next 6 months as Zak endured 2 highly invasive surgeries and difficult recoveries. I remained hopeful. I put him on homeopathic medicine, upgraded his diet and “loved him up” as the veterinarian told me to do.
Remembering ‘what I know’ refers to the fact that my...
, mary white
Friday, May 3, 2013
Recently I was walking in the street and found myself crying. I’d spontaneously started thinking about my late wife, Elana, and the pain of her loss had made me cry. It was a simple, pure and very meaningful experience. It seemed appropriate to me to embrace the thoughts and feelings that were coming my way, knowing that they were profound and purposeful; I simply waited to see where they would take me. I cried for a few moments, as I remembered the sense of love and respect I had for her in her lifetime and that remains with me even 12 years later. But as quickly as they had come, those painful thoughts were replaced by new thoughts of gratitude; gratitude for the 11 years I spent married to Elana; gratitude for having had such a special woman in my life; gratitude for all that she gave me. I dwelled on that gratitude for a few moments before new thoughts came along, my tears dried, and I was on my way again. The whole experience took less than a minute. But it was a rich and deeply meaningful minute for me.
One of things that I value so much in my life nowadays is my lack of fear of my own experience. I know that my experience is just fine; and even when it...