Friday, June 7, 2013
One day recently while I was eating lunch in a college cafeteria, a woman I had never met asked if she could sit at my table. She introduced herself as a psychologist who works with students. I told her I also have been a mental health educator for students.
“What method do you use?” she asked.
“You may not have heard of it. Innate Health. We teach people the fundamental source of mental well-being, described by the Principles that explain how our minds work.”
“I never heard of it,” she said. “I have studied all the evidence-based methods. I guess yours is not really mainstream, then.”
“It isn’t widely studied, but there are a considerable number of practitioners around the world. It is both a therapy and a prevention strategy because once people understand how their minds work, they do not fall prey to their most frightening thoughts.”
I described the Principles briefly, explaining that they point to a deeper, spiritual origin of our capacity to experience life....
Friday, April 26, 2013
Most of the time I know life can’t make me suffer, that the real cause of my suffering is my own thinking. But sometimes I can’t help but feel like there are a few things that are objectively horrid for anyone no matter how they think about it. Maybe the most extreme example would be having someone die. If a person loses someone close to them, they’re bound to feel sad no matter what they’re thinking, right? It seems like that kind of sadness and suffering has nothing to do with thought, that certain events can bypass our thinking and somehow affect us directly. But recently I was reminded first-hand how the ONLY way life can affect us is through our own thinking, even when it comes to death.
A few months ago one of my uncles died and I went to the memorial. As I’d expected, lots of people were sad. But I was struck by several things:
- 1. No two people felt the same way. People that were sad were sad for different reasons, in different ways, and in different amounts. Some were sad because they’d regretted not seeing him more. Some were sad because his professional...